Firstly, thank you. Words alone cannot express the gratitude I have for you. 

You’re a Midwife, a Mum, and a damn good friend.

You made me see a strength in me that I didn’t know I had. A strength I didn’t even know was possible.

You reassured me that everything was going to be OK and that I could do this.

You let me ask all the ridiculous questions I had including a late night text freaking out because my poo was black (thanks iron pills). Questions like “what if I don’t know I am in labour?” haha, how fucking naive was I? You know alright…

You helped us in ways you will never even know. Pre and post-birth.

You’ve never questioned our decisions and you’ve always supported us 100%. I start to ramble and you stop me and remind me that our decisions are exactly that and I don’t need to justify myself.

You’ve been totally honest and straight up with both Reuben and I when we needed it most. 

You made us see sense when we were in a sleep deprived state and it was all getting a bit much.

My midwife is also a personal friend, I was always a little worried her seeing me at my most vulnerable (and seeing my lady bits) but honestly, I wouldn’t have changed a thing. She is a total champ and I don’t regret my decision even when she challenges me – generally for my negativity and crap attitude (and I thank her for it). She was well aware of my past mental health issues and was so amazing seeing signs of PND early on with Baxter and jumping on it straight away, educating me and making me see that it’s far more common than we realise and there is so much help and support out there. She made me feel confident in talking about how I really felt which in turn has allowed me to help others going through the same thing by speaking openly in my blog about my struggles.

Her love and support throughout the pregnancies/births of both Baxter & Lily is something I will be forever grateful for.

You know who you are… thank you doesn’t seem like enough.

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One of my awesome followers has a YouTube Channel and a friend of hers made up a Mum Tag, it’s all about being raw and honest about motherhood (and we all know I have that down pat).

  • Describe your day as a mum today in one word.

Hectic.

  • What’s the most challenging part about connecting with other mums?

Finding the mums that you relate to on a number of levels. You can find a mum that you really gel with but your parenting styles might be so different that its kind of difficult to ‘relate’. We all parent in different ways and there is no right or wrong, its often easier to connect and form a bond with a mum who is at your level and gets your way of doing things. It’s also difficult to find the mums that are down to compete, you know the whole ‘my kids better than your kid’.

  • Share one horrible poo moment! We’ve all been there.

We’ve only ever had one hella nasty poo sitch, seriously. My last ever breastfeed and by god, there was shit EVERYWHERE, to the point I was contemplating just throwing all the clothes out as I didn’t even want to wash them.

  • How do you cope with public child meltdowns and tantrums?

I think we’ve been lucky so far and Bax hasn’t really lost this shit in public but I know it’ll come and I am sure I will blog about it when it does.

  • Honestly, how much screen time does your child have?

Very little. I can’t keep his still long enough for it to be an issue. I used to play sensory type videos on the iPad when he was a baby and came to work with me (more so I could get some work done). He will watch cartoons for all of 5 minutes and then go cause havoc somewhere in the house.

  • What’s your go to easy dinner that you give at least once a week?

Throw together meals. I am bad for it as I am a shit house cook, I think being pregnant isn’t helping with the motivation levels. I get his silicone plate with the separate compartments and give him a bunch of things he loves – ham, cheese, bread. Full of nutrition.

  • Did you yell, cry or struggle today?

Not today, for a change. Lies. Actually, I didn’t cry today which is unusual (pregnancy hormones). But I did yell. I am a shouty mum at the moment. I am tired, uncomfortable, heavily pregnant and Baxter is testing boundaries/patience levels. I’m not proud of it, but I also won’t lie about it.

  • What was the best moment of your day so far as a mum?

Putting Baxter down for bed tonight. Seriously, I need a break (and a sleep).

  • What is your secret guilty pleasure to reward your mum life?

When I wasn’t pregnant my reward was indulging in a hot bubble bath with a glass of Pinot Noir. Right now my pleasure is just seeing Baxter thrive and smile his goofy smile, makes me see I’m doing something right.

  • How often do you experience mum guilt?

I used to experience it daily. I used to let it consume me until one day something just clicked and I decided to stop feeling guilty over things I couldn’t control. I don’t care what somebody else things of my style of parenting or my decisions. Of course there are going to be occasions when I will feel guilty, it’s completely normal – but I won’t beat myself up about it.

  • Share one taboo thing about motherhood you think should be talked about more!

The struggles of breastfeeding and just the whole parenting thing as a whole and the difficulty that comes with it. People don’t talk about how tough it can be so others experiencing it think its not normal.


I would love to do more of these so post your questions below or email me, hello@newmumclub.com and I will put together a Q & A post and may even make it a regular thing!

In one of my recent posts I made a big hoo-hah about the fact it’s a new year but ya’ll are gonna get the same old me and that I wasn’t going to make ridiculous goals that I know I have zero intention of fulfilling.

Instead, I am embracing all the changes coming this year and since turning 30, I can’t hide it anymore, I really am an adult and I am starting to get old. Things that never used to matter to me are now front of mind.

  • My health is more important than ever because I have 1 (soon to be 2) little people fully reliant on me.
  • We’re about to put an offer in on a house so our finances are extremely topical right now and I am learning so many things I never even knew.
  • I have always been a terrible saver. If I have money, I spend it. I am so thankful I joined KiwiSaver early as that helped me a lot when it came to my deposit.
  • I’ve gone through life working my butt off but never doing a lot to actually protect myself should anything happen.

With my 30th birthday been and gone, it’s got me thinking about putting a will in place. Some of these are things I don’t even want to think about but I need to, not only myself, but for my family.

As you would have seen from my last post with Warehouse Money, we’ve been doing a bit of work together and I have to say, sponsored or not, this whole collaboration has taught me a lot about insurance, different types of cover and why it is so important.

My latest learning is about Health Insurance. I have never really put a lot of thought into until becoming a parent. Like my previous post touched on, I’ve always had the attitude “I won’t ever need it” and “I can better spend the money elsewhere”. I’ve always been in generally good health so have luckily never needed it.

I’m pretty careful person, yeah, I am clumsy as heck at the best of times and am yet to break any bones or do any serious damage (touch wood).

Sitting here pondering why we mums need health insurance and I have come up with a few reasons:

  • As I mentioned earlier, I’m not a great saver so coming up with a large sum of money at a moment’s notice can be hard (especially because we are soon to be paying a large Wellington mortgage)
  • When Reuben catches a cold and thinks he’s dying (man flu, boohoo). (Doctors visits and prescription costs add up significantly over the year for a family of three – soon to be four!).
  • Parent accommodation cover – just in case one of the kids needs to go into hospital and we need somewhere to stay (If my child gets sick, I worry like crazy and want to ensure the best care for him – so knowing that I have private health insurance means we can jump the public health care queues
  • Non-surgical hospitalization – for things like asthma or specialist appointments (which can be crazy expensive).
  • Typical kid stuff like grommets and tonsillitis.

Even better? If you purchase before you have your baby, they’re covered for anything that may arise pre/post birth.

Since becoming a Mum to Baxter and with his sister arriving in April I don’t just have myself to worry about anymore. Of course, I still have to worry about myself, for their sake but I also need to ensure that they are covered in the case of accident or illness.

If something happened to me, what would happen to the kids? Reuben stays home with Baxter and I am the one working. Could they manage without me? And then, what if Reuben got sick?

Warehouse Money has partnered with nib to bring you different types of cover to suit your needs. There are three great plans available: Everyday for Everyone cover, Hospital cover, Hospital and Specialist cover.

The thing I love most about the Warehouse Money approach is that is clear and simple with exactly what cover you’re getting. They’re on a mission to make things easy for us Kiwi’s when it comes to offering great value financial products and services.

We’re looking at the Hospital Cover policy, a slightly more premium product that covers a lot for the average kiwi family (like us). From only $2.29 a week per person, that’s less than the average cup of coffee! This cover is great if you require private hospital treatment so you can quickly get back to doing the things you love. What else does it cover? Surgery, Cancer Treatments, Oral Surgery, Specialist Consults and much more. Have a look at what policy is right for you over at www.warehousemoney.co.nz

Obviously, each person has individual needs and can pick the cover that best suits them. I just love that it’s made so transparent and tells me exactly what I am getting, in a simple way that I can understand and make an informed decision from AKA I can do it all online.

So thanks Warehouse Money, for making insurance easy to understand, good value and easily accessible for all New Zealander’s.

I am keen to know what changes you’re making/have made in regards to your life/health since becoming a parent? Did things change dramatically or were you just more organised than me? Do you see insurance as a priority and a must have?

If you’re stuck and are not sure where to start, jump onto www.warehousemoney.co.nz and get a quote.

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To the mum tapping her brakes at the lights, we’ve all been there.

To the mum struggling to carry her newborn while her toddler is having a tantrum, I feel for you.

To the mum rocking her shopping trolley while the person in front faffs about with no regard or awareness that your baby is about to go from 0-100 REAL quick.

To the mum feeding her baby in the cafe while her own meal goes cold, I don’t remember the last time I ate a full meal – uninterrupted. You’re a good mum and your child will one day thank you (maybe).

To the mum who hasn’t washed her hair in over a week, you rock that mum-bun.

To the mum persevering through the pain of breastfeeding in order to prove a point or to keep others happy, do what’s best for you. A happy mum is more useless than a broken one.

To the mum who isn’t sure if that stain on her pants is food or fecal matter, you rock on.

To the mum who’s stuck on the couch under a sleeping baby while your phone is out of reach, I feel you sister.

To the mum stuck in the car with a sleeping baby/toddler not knowing whether to risk the dreaded transition. Stay there, get your phone out and relax.

To the mum swaying side to side in the coffee line, I still do it 18 months on. I don’t think it ever stops.

To the mum reading this while gritting their teeth because there child won’t go to sleep – breeeeeathe.

To the mum hiding in the bathroom crying so she can get one moment’s peace, we’ve been there.

To the mum scared to feed their child formula because of fear of judgement, just do it. Happy mum = happy baby.

We’re in this together mamas! I salute you! Sometimes we just need to take a deep breath and realise this parenting gig is a tough one. We’re not alone and that there are SO many mums experiencing the same things as us each and every day but very few will openly admit it.

If you see a mama out in public, struggling, who could do with a helping hand or a hug. Reach out, you could make her day. You could be that one adult conversation she has been craving for all day.

You’re doing an amazing job, don’t question yourself mama. You’re doing just fine x

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The week before Christmas, Reuben and I were lucky enough to have a baby-free evening at the Bolton Hotel in Wellington. I haven’t had many nights away from Baxter but knew we both needed it. Not only does having a baby change your life in many amazing ways, it changes your relationship too and both Reuben and I knew we needed a night away to treat ourselves and relax (well, try to anyway as I am terrible at it). The Bolton Hotel is a 5-star boutique hotel in the heart of the city, located on Bolton St off The Terrace so it’s in close proximity to all major amenities, tourist locations and a short walk/uber ride to the nightlife scene.

We hadn’t stayed there before and were hanging out for the peaceful break! I must admit, though, we did dial into the baby monitor at Mum & Dad’s on several occasions just so we could sneak a peek at our little man. I trust my parents 100% but it’s always nice to see them (and check they’re sleeping). The staff were amazing when we arrived, super friendly and gave us the run down, where everything was etc. I loved that we could park right out the front so I didn’t have to waddle too far (ha).

We stayed in one of their Classic Suites, which had everything we needed or could have needed. I liked the fact that it had a separate living area to the bedroom (which meant Reuben could watch the cricket – zzz) and I could blob on the bed and order room service or trawl Facebook feed using their free WIFI (who doesn’t love free WIFI?) even better, they have an in-room iPad for you to use complete with a jazzy hotel app which allows you to order all sorts of delicious goodies, see what’s happening around the city, book a wake up call and so many other things that didn’t involve picking up a phone and talking to somebody. I was super stoked to see a bath in the suite. Yes, we have a huge bath at home but it’s nice to not bath surrounded by floating plastic toys or having a child sticking their finger in your belly button and laughing.

We were treated to dinner at their amazing Artisan restaurant too, we googled the menu before we had even checked in as anybody who knows me, knows I am ridiculously fussy. We were both well impressed with the menu, although we didn’t know what half the things on the menu were (cue more googling). This is purely from lack of us getting out and experiencing/trying new things. Well, try new things we did. We asked the lovely lady looking after our table what she recommended and she guided us well. We started with Halloumi fritters, brioche crumb, quinoa and broad bean salad, tamarillo jam and the Goat’s cheese soufflé with cherry tomatoes, spinach. Wow, I would not usually eat any of the above, and it was a taste explosion, one I thoroughly enjoyed and I am not just saying that. Even Reuben was amazed that I polished off all of mine (and ate some of his). For dinner, we played it safe and selected something we knew we both loved – Beef. We chose the Beef fillet and short rib with Pho beef broth, herb tortellini and mirepoix. Again, divine. Had a real Asian twist to it, something I am usually scared of (flavours in general). My god, it was delicious. Come dessert, I am all about the Chocolate, we had the Chocolate “en surprise” with dulce de leche and roasted peanuts to share. I am pretty sure I ate all of it. Holy moly, what a dish!! The presentation blew me away and I simply didn’t want it to end. The staff were fantastic with us, explaining which cutlery to use when (yes, we’re that noob). They also made me the most delicious Strawberry mocktail (pregnant and all).

We slept amazingly and had a late checkout to allow us to demolish the breakfast we had delivered to our door that morning. By far, the best hotel breakfast I have EVER had in my life. REAL coffee, the most delicious smoothie, REAL bacon and again, presented really nicely and piping hot when delivered.

When checkout time came, the car was waiting at the door for us and the staff were super friendly and chatty.

Would highly recommend for a child-free night, would also attempt taking Baxter (the idea still scares me) as you could easily set their porta cot up in the living area so you have some privacy/peace still or you could opt for a bigger twin room.

As I know, all you mamas are super hard working and deserve a night off for some relaxation. So, I’ve teamed up with the lovely team at The Bolton Hotel to give away a nights stay for 2 with complimentary breakfast*.

To enter, just comment over on the New Mum Club Facebook page pinned post (the post you clicked on to get here) why you and your partner (or you and a friend) deserve a night away. You must also like the Bolton Hotel Facebook page (we can check).

The winner will be drawn on February 16th at 6 pm.

*Bolton Hotel T&C’s – stay can be used on a weekend night (non-event) and will have 1-year validity.

New Mum Club standard T&C’s – https://newmumclub.com/terms-conditions/